Other Writing by Dr. Buser

Adventure Therapy: A Supplementary Group Therapy Approach for Men
(with David Scheinfeld and Aaron Rochlen) In Psychology of Men & Masculinity, Vol.12
pp. 188-194, 2011

Creating Experiential Weekend Retreats for Men (with David Scheinfeld) In Breaking Barriers in Counseling Men (2013) Edited by: Aaron Rochlen & Fred Rabinowitz

The Guy's Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce

Practical advice for every man dealing with divorce.

I have published both in professional journals as well as for the public. I especially like translating ideas from psychological science into practical information for the consumer. My first book, The Guy's Only Guide to Getting Over Divorce, written with my colleague and friend, Dr. Glenn Sternes, illustrates this integration.

Our book offers practical advice for every man dealing with divorce.

When it comes to getting your life back together after divorce, most of the great advice out there is geared toward women. Sure, there’s no end of advice for men about financial and legal concerns. But, what about YOU personally—your adjustment to a new kind of life, your uncertainty about how to start over. Your time has come! Whether you are newly separated, finalized your divorce last year, or have been divorced a while. The Guys-Only- Guide to Getting Over Divorce answers questions from hundreds of men just like you about how to get on with a better life!

From Ex to Sex
(And everything in between—questions guys ask, or should ask!)

This Q&A Coaching Covers it All:

  • The nuts and bolts of starting over
  • Why time is absolutely on your side
  • “Is it normal to feel this way about my ex-wife, my kids, other women?”
  • Dating again—what kind of woman you should be looking for?
  • Having sex again—when, how much, working out the kinks, and more
  • Getting serious—how to avoid the same mistakes this time around
  • How to go for a good thing when you see it—you deserve it!

This book is a man's guide to recovering from divorce and starting a new life. Written from the viewpoint of psychologists, the book uses a question and answer format to give men straight advice on how to minimize conflict, reduce harm to children, and start new relationships. The format enables the reader to choose just those sections that are applicable or of most interest. The emphasis of this book is not on legal pitfalls, but on how men can manage the psychological issues inherent in a divorce. You will receive extensive coaching on how men can begin dating again, the nature of sexuality post-divorce, and on making choices that can lead to a successful future marriage.

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What people are saying...

“Every imaginable question a divorced guy would want to know is asked and answered in this book…”
Mark Stevens, Ph.D.
Past-President of the Society for the Psychological Study of Men & Masculinity

“…just the right measure of facts, inspiration, and humor to keep a man (or a woman) turning the pages…”
Ollie J. Seay, Ph.D.
President, Texas Psychological Association

“…solidly based on research…a ‘must-read’ for any man going through divorce.”
Ronald F. Levant, Ed.D., ABPP
Dean and Professor, The University of Akron

“…packed with concrete and realistic suggestions…useful even to men who hate to ask for help”.
Aaron Rochlen, Ph.D.
The University of Texas at Austin